Is Anger Destroying Your Life?
Have you ever been so angry you thought your head was about to explode? You could feel the heat rise up your neck and the minute you opened your mouth it was like incoherent babbling of *#@##*!!!
I think if we are honest, we can admit we have all been there at least one time in our life.
But what about if its not just one time? What if it is almost a daily occurrence? What if the rage inside of you is destroying your inner peace, relationships, health, and job? Are you tossing and turning at night, unable to have a good night’s sleep and you wake up to a day that is just like yesterday and the day before that? Does nothing ever change, and you feel like you are at your breaking point? Have you found yourself apologizing to recipients of your outburst so many times that you quit apologizing because what’s the point… you can’t control yourself and it will probably happen again, even though you don’t want it to?
I am going to go out on a limb with this one and suggest that maybe, just maybe, anger is not the only emotion you are dealing with. Your anger, which became wrath, is the overflow, the manifestation of what is lying beneath the surface.
Have you ever used a pressure cooker?
A pressure cooker is a sealed chamber that traps the stream generated as its contents are heated. As steam builds, pressure increases, driving the boiling point of water. You may notice the lid has a vent (nozzle) to release steam. Without adequate venting, releasing of the pressure/steam, the pressure cooker could explode. (a lil’ F.Y.I. you don’t want to remove the lid before you have released the steam)
The heat needs to be turned up to create such pressure, right. And when you remove the pot from the heat then the contents will stop boiling and the steam will evaporate.
But what if you can’t control the heat?
I used the pressure cooker as an example of what it feels like when the line to rage is about to be crossed. In the kitchen, you can control the burners, but in life… you have no control over anything (or anyone) outside of yourself and sometimes the heat will be turned up. You will have a bad day, you will run into those triggers that are like a stick poking a bear, something will inevitably happen.
Sometimes anger is justified. The emotion of anger warns us something is not right. I like how the Amplified Bible puts it; be angry at sin, at immorality, injustice, at ungodly behavior, yet do not sin; do not let your anger cause you shame, nor allow it to last until the sun goes down.
But I’m not talking about this kind of anger. I am talking about the kind of anger that is destroying your life! Even if you never allow it to pour over into outward wrath, you feel the anger that is eating away the inside of you, causing you to make poor choices, push people away, and beat you with the self-condemnation stick because you know inside that something is not right. You want to change, but you don’t know how. You have a couple good days, but they never last. Those old dark feelings keep resurfacing.
My friend, if you are dealing with this kind of anger, then you are not dealing with just a human emotion, you are dealing with a demonic spirit.
The Bible says we are not wrestling against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
What causes the spirit of anger?
You did not just wake up one day full of blind rage. It didn’t just happen. This kind of rage (demonic spirit) has friends that pave the way for him to enter. The door is opened through an injury (most likely during childhood), through rejection, fear, physical/verbal/emotional abuse, generational, unrepentant sin…
Now, if you want to learn how to “deal” with anger, learn some grounding techniques to talk you back off the ledge, there is a lot out there. But wouldn’t it be much better to just evict that demon from your life? Maybe you have been angry for so long you can’t even imagine what a day would feel like if you aren’t angry. This kind of anger and bitterness is like living with a roommate who you hate, but can’t escape from. It’s like, well… it’s like living in hell.
Deliverance from anger…
If you have clicked on this post, and read it this far, then that is good news, because it means you are recognizing that there is a dark force at operation behind your outburst and you want to change. This is called conviction, and it means His Holy Spirit wants to deliver you from this hellish bondage.
Have you noticed an increase in angry people? Does it seem like the world is full of people who are easily offended and want to offend? Unless you shut the television, internet, newspapers off, and move to some remote island of “Population One” there is no way of escaping the obvious fact that there is something very sinister going on, and I’m not talking about politics, I’m talking about spiritual forces that are having their day in the minds and hearts of people. The Bible talks about this in depth in 2 Timothy 3.
I don’t know what caused you to be so angry. I have an idea, but I don’t know your personal situation. For me, it came through a childhood of rejection and fear, then it carried over into my adult life, that ugly spirit followed me and taunted me. Through every disappointment and rejection, I would think, eh…maybe it be better next time. I always tried to remain optimistic, hopeful…
But try as I may, my attempts were met with more rejection, disappointments, and failure. I was being swallowed up in fear! As the clock ticked and I was getting older the fear got bigger. Then I got angry! So very angry! Like the gif on the top of this post. The angrier I got, the more condemned and ashamed I felt, because I am a Christian and I’m not suppose to be feeling this way or acting this way. Isn’t this what the church teaches us? “Don’t be angry, be like Jesus”. But that’s not what the Bible teaches us. It’s OK to be angry. Sometimes we ought to be angry. But when the anger turns to rage and pushes out every bit of love we have and causes us to hide from the very One who can heal us and rescue us, then it is definitely time to examine ourselves.
Search me thoroughly, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts; and see if there is any wicked or hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way. -Psalm 139:23-24
There are things that happen and we have no control over it. We cannot control other people, we can only take responsibility for ourself. The wrong that was done against you, the injustice, the injury… you didn’t deserve that. You deserve(d) to be loved, cared for, and safe.
Take some time to get alone with God, He will never turn you away, and with His help you can find the door that anger entered through, close it and seal it, and let Holy Spirit heal you and restore you. Allow Him to lead your focus to Him, and when you have grabbed hold of the revelation that He has you in the palm of His hand, and you can trust Him, then fear will vanish, anger/rage will have no place in you, and it will be like someone turned the lights on because the dark cloud that followed you will have to leave.
You are precious and you are loved. You can be delivered from the control of anger and healed from the inside out of every wound. You can step into a new life of freedom.
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In my search for help with anger, I came across this video on YouTube. Maybe some of what he says doesn’t apply to you, but the prayer at the end is quite powerful.
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