If I could change One Thing…


If you could go back in time and change one thing, have one do-over, what would it be? Have you ever wondered?

I had several answers when I first thought about this question. My mind quickly recalled times when I said yes when I should have said no, or said no when I should have said yes, yada yada. My answers always involved someone else.

A lesson I am learning and trying to practice (God help me), is to  stop pointing fingers, getting my feelings hurt, and shrinking back from the only person I can change… me.

In a spirit of thankfulness, I am reminded of Romans 8:28, and I have to thank God that He is true to His word. Instead of walking in regret I can hold my head up and learn from the past and not carry it into the future (or the present).

While it may be true that the past has formed us into who we are today, truer still is His grace and forgiveness can turn all the ashes into beauty, if we let Him. Healing and deliverance is found only through Him.

One thing I have learned, is to ask for help.

I have created many a mess by not asking for help. Pride and fear kept me silent.  I was drowning with a smile on my face and the whole time I was saying, “I’m good, I’m fine, I got this under control.”


Here’s the thing about lessons; they are learned as an after affect, and sometimes experience can be an unforgiving tutor.

I think about the prodigal son and if he would have asked for help sooner, maybe he would have never had to be a connoisseur of pig slop.

There is safety in numbers. We are to surround ourselves with other Christian believers. The Father, who sent His Son to reconcile us to Him, is a Father of intimate relationship.  Since He has gone through such great effort to restore us into fellowship with Him, we can trust and believe that relationship with His body is important. We were not created to be an island unto ourselves. We are not wounded animals to go off into isolation and die by ourselves. We were created in His image and likeness to be in communion with Him, through Him, and with others.

As I walk this out, and sometimes I may stumble, I am learning I am only responsible for myself, my own actions, and before my actions turn into reactions, ask for help.

What do you think? I would love to hear from you, feel free to leave a comment below.

Be Free & Stay Free



2 Comments on “If I could change One Thing…”

  1. Great post. There are many things I wish I could change but I can’t. We are not in a church at present after several bad experiences so it’s hard at times. But I felt my faith was ebbing away in the church environment as I watched so much hypocrisy and falseness.

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    • Hi Fractured Faith, thank you for commenting and your honesty. I could write a post length comment in response to your comment, I have been there. It is the worse kind of hurt when it comes from within the body. I was without a church family for a long time, for the very reason you are. During that time I visited churches and sometimes I left so frustrated and sad, because too many have lost their first love and it felt as though God could not be seen within the smoke machines and loud bass of the music. I could slip in and slip out and not even be noticed. So sad, because this is not the way it should be. In the midst of this, God spoke to me and reminded me, my vision should be on Him and not those around me. I am only responsible for myself, as the word says, walk out your own salvation. But, this also serves as a reminder that He is returning very soon and the signs He told us to look for are right before our eyes, and one of the signs is a cold church, many will fall away. I believe what “not forsaking the gathering of the saints” means is to we are not to stay isolated, because we need each other. We are to come together and worship, encourage, exhort, and edify each other. The early church met in each others home, right. So, it may not be the church as in the institute or building, but the church as in His Body…. us. After years of not having a church family I finally found one and I have got to say I am so thankful, because I was horribly lonely and had no one locally I could worship and praise God with. I was surrounded by the world and trying to hold onto my faith. There is hypocrisy everywhere, in the church and out of the church, we are not a perfect people, and sadly there are some in the church pews that are not in Christ. It is a sad fact. But we are called to be the light in a dark world, it would just be nice if there wasn’t so much of the world in the church, right. I pray you be strengthened and our Father surround you with people who truly love Him. Keep the faith and keep the joy, my friend. Blessings to you! Philippians 3:13-21


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