When Church Hurts

Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.

Proverbs 19:11

 For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice

James 3:16

 Do not take to heart all the things that people say, lest you hear your servant cursing you. Your heart knows that many times you yourself have cursed others.

Ecclesiastes 7:21-22

I open this post with three verses that we should read and take to heart.

Many people have fallen away from fellowship with other believers because of an offense. Quite possibly they left the church because their feelings got hurt, they were offended. As followers of Christ we know the world will hate us, because the world hated Jesus. It would seem the world has infiltrated the church and before we point fingers, we must ask ourselves; “Am I part of the problem?” Are we agents of reconciliation or are we sewing discord?

There is a reason we are not to forsake the gathering of the saints and we are to come together in fellowship. We need each other for support. We cannot stand alone. Fellowship with other believers strengthen us, encourages us and holds us accountable. Without this, we are vulnerable to the world. Remember, we are in this world, not of this world.

Some wounds are real and I do not want to ignore this, but often breaking of fellowship happens because of something petty. Rather than confront the person who has offended, in love, (see Matthew 18:15-17) some choose to walk away and say the church is full of hypocrites and I will never go back into that place. Then they brood over the offense and it becomes poison; not only to themselves, but to anyone who listens while they air the offense. This causes division.

I would have to wonder who we are really following. Are we following man or are we following God? Yes, hurts are real; Jesus knows this and He can heal the hurt. Man will let you down, Jesus never will. I am not suggesting that you stay where you are not welcome. I am suggesting to stay within the body that loves and follows Christ. You need the body and the body needs you. Do not retreat, do not hide.

The days are drawing short and His return is close. Be ready.

Be Free & Stay Free

2 Comments on “When Church Hurts”

  1. “Do not retreat. Do not hide.” That’s what I’ve done. I simply don’t know how to connect. I’ve grown up in the church. I’ve broadened my understanding of various churches and, despite the bickering, they’re like siblings wanting the other to be more like them. (I come from a large family – a large family of faith, as well 🙂

    When I’m quiet and by my self, I feel so loved and accepted by Daddy God. But when I “go to church”…I don’t seem to really come alive…or find those threads of connection…”

    I think part of what I’ve been starting to hear from Him this past week, is that He wants me to try…again.

    I’m going to make room for Him to show me something…new.


    • Yes, try again. You need the body and the body needs you. Church is filled with a bunch of imperfect people. Do not look to them. Look to Jesus. I think sometimes we miss it when we think what can we get from the church, when it is really what can we give. Trust, there are others there that feel the same way you do. Find them. connect with them. Be the light. It’s no fun to hide, we were created for relationships, because we are in His image and He is God of relationships. Yes, try again… He will show you something new. Bless you, you are not alone.

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